The “Why” Question
The “Why?” question is a common thing when anyone experiences a loss. Whether it is the loss of a job or the loss of a child in a custody case, the “Why?” issue can creep in or crash in. The emotional hurt from the loss can make a logical answer seem irrelevant.
We do need to be careful in assuming this question, however. I have been asked how I dealt with the “Why God?” question. The truth is that I did not struggle with it much. My life-long experiences of trust in God seemed to melt the severity of that concern.
When it does loom over the griever, be slow to assume you have an answer. Remember the one grieving is experiencing an emotional hurt and a logical reply may not be a help. They mostly need you to identify their pain and support them at this time. Don’t play God.
Genuine concern goes a long way in helping the bereaved. Knowing this is more help to them than a long prepared speech.