The Importance of Expression and Closure
Expression and closure are important for those who have experienced loss.
I had the opportunity to share my experiences and lessons of going through loss at a large men’s prison in southeastern California recently. The chaplain, who is a long-time friend, invited me to share with the “church” he was responsible for behind bars. It proved to be a wise choice.
Following my talk men began lining up to express appreciation and tell me their story. One was particularly impacting to me. A man with a pony tail was in line and when he got to me he was so moved he couldn’t talk. He stepped out of line for a moment. Finally his story came out. He had married his childhood sweetheart, gone to Viet Nam, came back with severe Post War Syndrome and she left him. Later in life he conquered the effects of the war and she returned. Now, since he has been in prison, she died and he never got to say goodbye, settle any outstanding hurts OR go to her funeral. I was the first person to come into his life who understood, by expression, his pain and it gave him release. He sobbed on my shoulder for the longest time.
You can be of great help to those you know by allowing them multiple opportunities to express their pain (not fix it) and even aid them in steps of closure.
With A Full Heart