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Posted by on Mar 13, 2017

Official Review: I didn’t Know What to Say by David Knapp

Post Number:#1 by AbbyC » 26 Feb 2017, 13:04

[Following is an official OnlineBookClub.org review of “I didn’t Know What to Say” by David Knapp.]

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4 out of 4 stars


Review by AbbyC



Title: I Didn’t Know What To Say
Author: David Knapp
Genre: Grief/Self-Help/Non-Fiction

In I Didn’t Know What To Say, David Knapp offers real life experience to friends of grievers. Suggestions on what should and should not be said coupled with ideas to actually help those hurting are all shown through real life examples. The loss of a job is a serious thing for those who have dedicated their life to their work and should not be taken lightly. To a couple who have never had children or a small girl who’s best friend is her dog, the loss of a pet can be devastating. The loss of a spouse or child are both traumatizing and friends shouldn’t expect the mourner to ‘just get over it’ anytime soon.

As the author points out often in his book, everyone losses something precious to them at some point in their lives which means that everyone knows someone who has experienced loss. Whether it was a child, spouse, job or even a pet; there are levels of grieving that everyone goes through. How you as a friend react to this process is a key instrument in helping them through it.

When I was younger I lost a distant relative who I wasn’t very close to. I was very close with another member of the immediate family though and it was so hard not knowing what to do or say to help them. Reading this book showed me what I did right, what I did wrong, and where I could have done more. I wish I had had it back then.

The author doesn’t simply offer advice from his own experience and perspective but years accumulation of suggestions and advice from men and woman who had experienced deep loss in some way. He covers the different types of emotional responses that can be expected and emphasizes everyone’s right to grieve in their own way. Also, while the author comes from a distinctly Christian perspective, he talks about being sensitive and accepting of others religious (or non-religious) beliefs during the grieving process.

This is a great book for anyone to read, whether you know someone who is grieving at the moment or not. Everything is to the point, makes sense and is easy to understand. I highly suggest it just for the sake of having this know-how for the next time you friend wants to talk about his lost job or the neighbor next door loses her precious cat. I give I Didn’t Know What To Say 4 out of 4 stars for being almost completely unique in it’s advice for the friend of grievers, and for it’s usefulness to nearly everyone in this modern day and age where we are so disconnected and really just don’t know what to say.

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Your Book Has Been A Help to ME

Posted by on Oct 13, 2016

David, it was a pleasure meeting you. Thanks for the gift of your book. it has ministered to me in a special way, changed my prospective on a long held opinion of how long a person should grieve. My opinion as I so strongly stated to you proved to be absolutely and totally incorrect. You have given me a new and better way to minister to those who have suffered a loss. Thanks and may our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ bless you and keep you as you continue this much needed ministry.

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An Easy Read and Pass On

Posted by on Aug 30, 2016

The Author has presented the reader with tools, lessons, & goals for experiencing loss that are not only compassionate, & fulfilling, but also practical, & realistic. Tools for dealing with the loss of a friend or family member. lessons on what to say & how to say it, to people who are deal with loss. A must read on the subject of being a better friend to those who experience loss. His guidance of what to say & when to say it can be applied to every aspect of life, & all its stressful times. Allan V Lewell. B.S., B.B.S., M.C.S

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Great On Talk Shows

Posted by on Aug 25, 2016

“David is a great author and friend. Most importantly he addresses the most important issues for the modern man as a speaker. I am glad to have him on my talk show. “

Robin Stienberg, Edinburgh Napier University

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