Timing can be the difference between helping or hurting a person who has just lost a loved one.
As I write this, our family is dealing with the loss of my wife, Crystal’s, father after a long battle with Parkinson’s Disease. Most comments Crystal is getting from friends have been very comforting and encouraging during these difficult days of grieving.
One well-meaning friend, however, had poor timing with his comment. He chose this time to bring up his theology about life after death to challenge our thinking. His differing opinion could have really “taken the wind out of” our spirit had we not been secure in our own beliefs. It was really the wrong time to bring up that subject, that way.
Indeed, people should be able to freely discuss differing opinions about the state of life after death. However, when it can cause added disconcertion to the hearts of the bereaved, it is bad timing.