Singleness of Men Over Age 65 Has Increased 21% in Last Decade
In the last decade the number of single men over the age of 65 has increased by 21%, due in part to the closing gap in the life expectancy of men and women. With this increase of men who have experienced loss in returning to singleness, what do we say to them?
While women who lose their husbands often speak of feeling abandoned or deserted, widowers tend to experience the loss “as one of dismemberment, as if they had lost something that kept them organized and whole,” Michael Caserta, chairman of the Center for Healthy Aging at the University of Utah, said by e-mail.
Men often struggle in sharing their deep feelings, especially negative ones. So, while it is effective to ask a lady how she is feeling after the death of someone close, it would be more productive to ask a man, “What did you do?” Then if they don’t have any ideas, you could suggest some things for them to do in working through their grief.