Readiness to Look for New Partner in Life Differs between Genders

Posted by on Apr 2, 2014 in Blog, Comfort, Grief Relief

I received an email from a friend who lost his wife suddenly about five months ago asking me about how I found a new life’s partner following my wife’s death.  What do I say?  Do I encourage him to press on in looking or do I recommend he wait longer?

It has been said that in the case of the death of a spouse, “women process and men replace.”  There may be some truth to that statement but hopefully it is not always the case.  Men need to process their grief as well.  Then there is the time factor to consider.  Generally, men can take from 6 to 18 months to process their grief whereby women tend to take one to two years to gain relief.  There is no set time requirement.

So, my comments to my friend include an honest reply with my evaluation of my own grieving process which required nine months before I felt like I could love again.

In due course,

David Knapp

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