Loneliness…a very real part of the grieving process
Loneliness is a very real part of the grieving process. This can be experienced in addition to missing someone who has died or even after experiencing the abandonment of a lost friendship. Thomas Wolfe puts it this way; “The whole conviction of my life now rests upon the belief that loneliness, far from being a rare and curious phenomenon, peculiar to myself and to a few other solitary men, is the central and inevitable fact of human experience.”
This aspect of the grieving process is often overlooked by those not experiencing it. However, I found it to be suffocating. We all understand that we will miss the one who we have lost. But, what about the oppressing loneliness that develops later? I have heard many express that it was harder to cope with than the missing their loved one part.
So, as you respond to those you know who have had a loss include loneliness as part of their experience in your thinking. This aspect is easier to help them with since all of us have had bouts of loneliness in our lives.