Help the Mourner by Allowing Them to Talk as Often and As Much as They Need to
Grief, it has been said, is the penalty we must endure for the pleasure of intimacy in relationships with others. Loss has been depicted as the flip side of love. To silence grief is to negate or silence love.
I have felt this to be true when people tried to avoid my grief and even avoid talking about my deceased wife either by name or inference. To stuff or even to de-emphasize the grieving process seemed to cheapen my relationship with my wife as if it was not really important enough to think about now. Since it seems to be true that the depth of grieving is often in proportion to the depth of the relationship lost, mourning needs to be expected and embraced. We can help that by allowing the mourner to talk as often and for however many months it takes to fully work through their process of grief.
Increasing your understanding of the process of grieving and its importance will help you be the best supporter of the bereaved you can be.