For Grievers, Fear and Isolation Often Go Together
In the grieving process, fear and isolation often go together. The griever often feels fear while the rest of their circle of friends responds by isolating them till they “get over it.” However, potential comforters are too often hampered in helping the bereaved due to their own fears. They are afraid to talk to a bereaved friend because they “don’t know what to say” and are therefore afraid of saying the wrong thing.
Whether it is your fear, or the fear of the one who has experienced a loss, beware of the tendency of isolation. Many mourners have expressed that when they needed to talk about “what happened” and the relationship they lost, most of their friends have pulled away and seemed afraid to talk about it.
Be the one to break the cycle of fear and isolation in someone’s grieving process by bravely stepping up to the plate with a listening ear and thoughtful question.