Coming to Grips with Reality is an Important and Real Part of Grieving
“I can’t believe he is really gone,” I heard my wife say many times in the weeks after her father’s passing. This coming to grips with reality is a very important and real part of grieving. That is why some have said that mourning is the opposite of denial.
I recall many, many times myself walking around the house and looking at Judith’s picture and telling myself, “She really died!” In fact, my first coming to grips with Ruth’s (my first wife) death came when a respected counselor made the blunt statement to me, “David, Ruth is dying.” I was free then to begin my grieving process.
Helping someone through their grieving process may include statements about their loved one’s death that continue to establish reality.