Can You Tell Me About Your Up and Down Feelings Today?
Understanding the level of experience a friend or relative is going through can go a long way in helping you know how to assist them in their journey. Often this is only found out by spending time with that person and listening closely. You may even need to ask clear questions. A simple, “How are you doing?” will not produce a true picture. A better question may be, “Can you tell me about your up and down feelings today (or this week)?”
A friend of mine who lost his wife 8 months ago wrote this to me. “I believe I am doing ‘well’ which might need some explaining. I still get blindsided by my emotions and, for what seems like no reason at all, I have a meltdown. The pain doesn’t seem as sharp and overwhelming as it has in the past, but it is there. Loneliness is hard to handle which was helped with a busy schedule. But a busy schedule doesn’t satisfy the need to talk and interact with a person of confidence. God knows these things and I am learning how to handle the different situations that come into my life.”
So, a listening ear and the right questions can provide needed information to you as you seek to be the best comforter to a friend or relative.