Tears May be the Best Response
Sometimes, tears are the only proper response to the grief of a friend or loved one.
That conclusion is not so popular among many of our society today, especially the men, but it is true. The physical response of showing one’s emotions in response to a friend’s pain can be better than anything anyone could possibly say. I certainly would not go so far as to say it is always in order. However, to those of us who want to be the most help for our loved ones, we need to be aware and secure enough to express with tears.
Yes, I said secure. One reason some people have trouble helping others who grieve is because they themselves have unresolved grief in their history. So they are hesitant to get too close to the subject for fear of it emerging unannounced within themselves. Those who have grieved well can deeply empathize with those who mourn.
Knowing what to say to ones who mourn can sometimes mean to say nothing.