POINTS TO PONDER

Posted by on Nov 2, 2015 in Comfort, Grief Relief, Grieving, Loss

POINTS TO PONDER

Comments of comfort should not be geared to “fix” the problem of grief for the bereaved.
Grief is the acknowledgement of loss emotionally. It is mostly a heart problem, not a mind challenge.
Mourners are sensitive to unsupportive comments that seem to minimize their grief.
Avoiding grievers socially, or avoiding the topic of their loss, stifles their grieving process.
Words of comfort need to revolve around the feelings of the bereaved, not the discomfort of the supporter.
The grieving are not looking for logic statements of being told what to do. What they need is a listening ear.
Comfort for the grieving needs to be more directed to their pain than the one they have lost.
Theological lectures are seldom of much relief for the pain of new grief.
Comments that imply a judgmental nature are of no comfort to the bereaved.
Beware of time in words of comfort. Avoid time limits and be sensitive to timing for comments.
Sympathy for the griever by recognizing their present pain has more value than attempts to empathize by comparing to your past losses.
Knowing the right thing to say is only half of the responsibility of being a supportive emotional care giver. The other half revolves around the doing.

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“I Didn’t Know What to Say” available in Print and Kindle Sept. 25th

Posted by on Sep 22, 2015 in Blog, Book, Grief Relief

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David Knapp ~ Grief Relief Ministries Best Selling Author and Speaker

My Internationally Best Selling Book will be available on Amazon on Sept. 25th!  We are pleased and excited that this work of heart has been impacting lives already.

I am available for speaking engagements both in person and through radio, podcasts, TV and guest blogs.

This book is an excellent resource for those whose professions depend on them provide comfort and solace to those who have lost loved ones…and should be required course material for people who are studying to go into one of these fields.

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