GRIEF RELIEF MINISTRIES
Grief Relief Ministries offers live presentations by David Knapp to help those who find themselves at the aid of others experiencing any form of grief from loss. Whether your group is currently helping folks going through loss or they are interested in being prepared when the occasion arises, David can give insights as to what to say as well as things to avoid in the process.
David Knapp enters your world softly, and with deep wisdom and emotion he shares his story of loss. Ultimately, he walks beside you through the grief process to a renewed attitude of winning for the next season. His journey of authenticity has not been easy. He has loved and cared for not just one wife who died of cancer long before her time, but two wives. During that journey he raised and blended two families of eight children. He worked as an executive, with side jobs to supplement the mounting financial burdens.
You will learn that David carries no chip on his shoulder. He has a love for the family and a desire to share what he learned through the years. David is not afraid of discussing the raw emotions, but gives equal time to wholeness and healing to help those grieving be in a winning place.
- Loss due to the death of a spouse
- Grief from a job loss or position change
- Grieving the loss of a pet or best friend
- Helping children thru the grieving process
- Adjusting to extreme family changes (blending, losing a child, empty nest)
- Helping leaders in personal crisis
- Dealing with loneliness due to loss
[Following is an official OnlineBookClub.org review of “I didn’t Know What to Say” by David Knapp.]Title: I Didn’t Know What To Say Author: David Knapp Genre: Grief/Self-Help/Non-Fiction In I Didn’t Know What To Say, David Knapp offers real life experience to friends of grievers. Suggestions on what should and should not be said coupled with ideas to actually help those hurting are all shown through real life examples. The loss of a job is a serious thing for those who have dedicated their life to their work and should not be taken lightly. To a couple who have never had children or a small girl who’s best friend is her dog, the loss of a pet can be devastating. The loss of a spouse or child are both traumatizing and friends shouldn’t expect the mourner to ‘just get over it’ anytime soon. As the author points out often in his book, everyone losses something precious to them at some point in their lives which means that everyone knows someone who has experienced loss. Whether it was a child, spouse, job or even a pet; there are levels of grieving that everyone goes through. How you as a friend react to this process is a key instrument in helping them through it. When I was younger I lost a distant relative who I wasn’t very close to. I was very close with another member of the immediate family though and it was so hard not knowing what to do or say to help them. Reading this book showed me what I did right, what I did wrong, and where I could have done more. I wish I had had it back then. The author doesn’t simply offer advice from his own experience and perspective but years accumulation of suggestions and advice from men and woman who had experienced deep loss in some way. He covers the different types of emotional responses that can be expected and emphasizes everyone’s right to grieve in their own way. Also, while the author comes from a distinctly Christian perspective, he talks about being sensitive and accepting of others religious (or non-religious) beliefs during the grieving process. This is a great book for anyone to read, whether you know someone who is grieving at the moment or not. Everything is to the point, makes sense and is easy to understand. I highly suggest it just for the sake of having this know-how for the next time you friend wants to talk about his lost job or the neighbor next door loses her precious cat. I give I Didn’t Know What To Say 4 out of 4 stars for being almost completely unique in it’s advice for the friend of grievers, and for it’s usefulness to nearly everyone in this modern day and age where we are so disconnected and really just don’t know what to say.
4 out of 4 stars
Review by AbbyC
The Author has presented the reader with tools, lessons, & goals for experiencing loss that are not only compassionate, & fulfilling, but also practical, & realistic. Tools for dealing with the loss of a friend or family member. lessons on what to say & how to say it, to people who are deal with loss. A must read on the subject of being a better friend to those who experience loss. His guidance of what to say & when to say it can be applied to every aspect of life, & all its stressful times. Allan V Lewell. B.S., B.B.S., M.C.S
Whether you heard David Knapp in person or read his writings, you will be comforted and blessed in your journey with bereavement. Because David’s own experiences with losses, he is willing and able to take you deeper into your own loss and at the end of the day, you will be helped in wonderful ways. Through the teachings of David Knapp you can be of great help to those you know who are going through the grieving process and aid them to end in a complete way.
I strongly recommend David Knapp’s Grief Relief Ministries for anyone that has experienced any type of loss or tragedy that resulted in deep pain and suffering. Mr. Knapp’s ability to relate, understand and communicate the process of recovering from grief is nothing short of a true gift from God. He also has an amazing ability to communicate with any size or demographic of audience in a way that is refreshing and uplifting even in the face of an otherwise extremely heavy subject. I have personally seen him communicate and connect effectively with audiences as small as five to as large as 5,000. He is comfortable and confident regardless of who the Lord puts him in front of. Please seek his ministry out if you or someone you know needs relief from grief.
Wilson Phang DM, PhD (Denver) Just introduced your work to Cornerstone Christian Counseling therapists and Grief Share group. Thank you for your ministry. Rob Heijermans (Canada) I read your book this summer. Thank you. I lost my wife to pancreatic cancer six months ago
“Have you ever felt uncomfortable in trying to help someone who is grieving a loss? Did you ever “shrink back” because you didn’t know how best to be a support and didn’t want to make it worse? Few of us know what to say or do to offer real comfort, that is, until now. Through his own heartfelt grieving, David has overcome, breaking down the process for us and providing a road map for anyone who wants to “be there” for a hurting person. Since loss affects us all at one time or another, this book should be a very helpful tool.” Brenda Terpstra Retired Teacher
From sharing his grief journey with others to “walking the talk” daily, David Knapp communicates clearly what it is like to experience and grow through grief. David is able to not only tell his own story but can listen and empathize with the grief journeys of others. He has a gentle and godly manner that encourages and gives hope to those who are struggling through the journey themselves or who are trying to walk alongside someone who is. I highly recommend him as a speaker and teacher and am looking forward to the publishing of his new book, “I Didn’t Know What to Say” Retired teacher, administrator and adjunct professor who has recently lost a mother and a father and an adult nephew and who is a trained hospice volunteer.
“David Knapp has put together a valuable and much need manual on how to help friends and loved ones as they journey through the grieving process. Especially helpful is the section at the end of the book that details what one can do to comfort and help those who experience the loss of a loved one at the time of death, one week later; and at intervals from 3 weeks, 3 months, six months and up to a year after the time of loss. There are tips covering what to say and do at the holidays; and how to help when those missing anniversaries and birthdays come around. Especially useful is the short guide at the end on what not to say when someone is grieving and what can be said instead when words are appropriate. This book will be a welcome resource, not just for minister’s and counselors, but in every family’s bookshelf.”
Did your parents, your school, your church ever teach you how to respond to someone in grief? I have been finding that most people say no. Well here is a book to fill that gap, as we all need to know how to handle grief. I have found it most helpful in guiding one to know what to say and not say, and when to speak up or remain silent. John R. Cross GoodSeed International
David Knapp has given me a whole new insight on how to talk with a grieving friend or family member. He shares his experience with his own losses; he helps us to understand how we can be a better friend to those who are experiencing grief. How many times have I said to myself, I hate funerals because I just never know what to say to that friend or family member who has just lost a loved one? Saying I am sorry for the lost just never seems to be enough. So I have found myself unconsciously avoiding that person because, I just didn’t know what to say. When I reflect back, how many times I have been guilty of saying to someone that their loved one is out of pain and is no longer suffering, or to be absent from the body is to be present with the Lord was just so insensitive while trying to give words of comfort, I was jabbing at a fresh wound. Even though they may know their loved one is out of pain and with the Lord there is a huge whole in their life because of the missing loved one. David Knapp has shown me that it is alright to talk about the deceased loved one, or to talk to someone who has just lost a job or a best friend, because loss of a career of friend can be just as devas ting as loosing someone in death. It’s alright to just talk, because maybe all they need is for someone to listen. Grief is never an easy thing to deal with. I hardily recommend this book to anyone who has ever said or thought to themselves, I just don’t know what to say to a grieving friend or family member. Carolyn A. Walker Former Arizona State Senator
“I Didn’t Know What to Say” is a compilation of life experiences David has faced to get where he is today. Visit our Book page for more information.